Marriage Migrant Male Family Voice

It has been 14 years since I met my Pakistani husband and made a home called a family. Currently, I have a husband who runs a junk shop and a son and daughter who attend elementary school. On the occasion of World Migrants Day today, as a member of a multicultural family, there are as many stories as the time that has passed, but I would like to share with you a few things that I want you to think about and reflect on. At the beginning of our marriage, my husband and I had some difficulties adapting to each other due to cultural differences, but it was the Korean laws and systems that made it difficult for me.
Need
to check the level of awareness of others Even though they were legally married, the law at the time made it difficult for her husband to get a legal job as well as a stable stay. So I persuaded my husband to be naturalized, and in the end, my husband had no choice but to endure it and finally made the realistic choice of naturalization, and after almost 10 years of marriage, he became a Korean citizen with a resident registration card. He became a Korean with dark skin color. However, contrary to our expectations, my husband felt that the idea of ​​“I am relieved now” was wrong everywhere he worked, and he said that he felt like he was being treated as a Korean or at the moment of receiving a ballot during an election.
First of all, I think it is necessary to check the level of consciousness of Koreans toward others. Throughout the marriage, if I go to immigration with my husband’s visa extension, I am subtly belittling that I live with my husband from a poor country. When I look at children, they look pretty, but they get timid at the people around them saying that their skin color is a bit different, and the children who have been scratched many times by such gazes become timid, and they are busy trying to appease the children who are crying over the smallest things.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . —- In the midst of this repetition of time, we all had to find something because we were all crying that we could not do it. As a parent, I had a strong will to do something. Even our precious children, who were born into this world, met with special connections and received blessings from them, could not live with people’s ignorance and narrow-minded eyes, so we could not let them live without a look.
Human dignity, education about
it. I am also a Korean mother. She is a mother of this land who cares for her children as if they were her own. Eventually, my husband and I found the answer at the Korea Migrant Workers’ Human Rights Center, and while studying with the center’s teachers, we found ourselves struggling with inertia. At the same time, I realized that what we lack is in value that takes precedence over money or material that is lost when we use it. That is human dignity!!! We realized that education on it was lacking and needed.
Second, there will be a need for every human being. For me, that desperate need is none other than family. The value of family will be so precious that no one can deny it. It is an indescribable pain to see your heart aching at the words or unpleasant glances of some people who give you strength and support when you are tired of the world. I miss the generous warmth of our compassionate and pats on each other.
Third, our sensitivity to quickly noticing other things is commendable, but our attitude, not trying to accept it as it is, presuming something unfamiliar or looking at it uncomfortable for no reason, needs to be checked again. I think. I also think that if I had married a Korean, I would not have become this sensitive and would not have been much different from ordinary people. We take a look at how we have become desensitized to the most basic things while living as human beings.
A change of consciousness required before the law
Our society is now a multicultural society. I think we need to think first about who and what attracted the multicultural society. I believe that the diverse people living together in us are the driving force behind a multicultural society. Also, since the Multicultural Families Support Act for multicultural families came into existence, there is strength and expectation, but how can it properly reflect the reality of diverse backgrounds? How possible is the linguistic access of the third world that Koreans cannot easily do? concerns prevail.
And the last thing I want to say is that it is more urgent to support the change of consciousness about myself and other people before the application method. I think that communication will be possible only when there is a positive change of consciousness in general about the migrants who are now our neighbors. I think that unilateral support in a state where communication is poor can rather isolate multicultural families. Now, I want to nurture my husband and children as fruits of hope. One healthy tree can become a dense forest. We must not forget the idea that well-nurtured timber is eventually harvested by us.
Isn’t it time we need a drastic after-sales service for emotional inspection? Thank you.
* This article was held on the last World Migrants Day! It was announced during the Korean society.